You’re Not Invited

Your guest list. Who should you invite, and who doesn’t make the cut? That’s 100% up to you—but let me give you my two cents.

That girl you went to high school with, who you haven’t talked to in five years but just became Facebook friends with? Yeah... she can probably stay home. She can enjoy the pictures you post after the wedding.

Your Aunt Becky’s cousin’s new boyfriend? He can sit this one out too.

Your cousin? Invite them—if you’re close. But if you haven’t seen or heard from them in years and can’t even remember how you’re related, it’s okay to leave them off the list.

What I’m getting at is this: invite the people you would be devastated not to have there on your big day. That’s your core.

Here’s the truth: You don’t have to invite everyone you’ve ever met, worked with, or shared a group project with in college. This isn’t a reunion. It’s your wedding—your people only.

So…..Who Should You Invite?

• Your ride-or-dies.
  The ones who answer your 2 a.m. texts, know your coffee order, and cried when you got engaged.

• Your closest family.
  The ones who have supported you, celebrated you, and would never miss this moment for the world.

• People who bring good energy.
  Positive vibes only. This isn’t the time for drama, guilt-trips, or tension.

• The “would I notice if they weren’t there?” test.
  Ask yourself that. If the answer is “not really”… you’ve got your answer.

And Who Doesn’t Need A Seat?

• Distant relatives you haven’t seen since you were in braces

• Co-workers you’re not close with

• Friends you “used to be tight with” but haven’t spoken to in years

• Anyone you’re inviting just because someone else thinks you should

• That random person who invited you to their wedding ten years ago... but you’ve barely talked since

Thinking back to mine and Stephen’s wedding, I can honestly say this: I remember my family and closest friends being there. That’s it. Those are the people who mattered.
We invited others, sure—but I couldn’t tell you who all showed up. And that tells you everything you need to know.

So when you're stressing over the guest list, just remember: this day is about you two.
Not politics. Not pressure. Just love.

Keep your circle tight, your energy high, and your heart full.